Aug 6, 2013
Life operates on a bell curve in a variety of ways from skill to IQ to height and weight. In the sexual marketplace on one end there are women who are attracted right off the bat and on the other end there are women that no matter what you say or do you’ll never be seen as attractive and won’t have a shot with them. The bulk of women fall somewhere between these two ends of the spectrum.
Naturals and a lot of PUAs do what I would describe as not having good game, but are good at screening women for those who are warm to their approach, allowing them to find women who are their type so they get laid quicker and more often.
When you zoom out and start looking at the bigger picture, that bulk of women that fall somewhere in the middle of that bell curve, good game IMO is what lets you get them. Adam Lyons once said something similar to all of this in that everyone is only attractive up to a certain point, and to “punch above your weight” you’ll need to have solid game.
Typically game will only let you get women about 1 point of SMV higher than yourself. Really tight game may get you a 2 point bump. Using the number system, if you’re a 7 then you’ll usually pull 7s and below. You’ll need good game to get 8s and incredible game to get 9s. So where does the bell curve fit in?
A) Game lets you get women who you’re NOT naturally attractive for
B) There are woman out there who will be naturally attracted to you for whatever reason, so with them you don’t even have to run game really, you just have to not fuck it up
That guy who is a 7 may be an 8 or 9s perfect guy for some reason and may not need much game to get them. It happens once in a while, as in the Marisa Tomei/George Constanza sense. However, that’s an extremely rare occurrence from what I’ve experienced personally, which is why screening is so important, mainly so you’re not fighting an uphill battle all the time, or worse, barking up the wrong tree with women who are just never going to be into you for whatever reason.
Don’t get me wrong, learning to tell if a woman is into you or not isn’t exactly easy, and it does take a bit of experience to get this down. This is why solid game is still a necessity as far as I’m concerned. It’s still an integral part of what males a man attractive.
Now the bad news. A good deal of the women who are naturally attracted to you YOU won’t be interested in them. In my case I’ve learned that the ones who naturally are interested are most often one of the following:
There are still the rare instances of women I’m interested in being interested in me, and one of the hottest women I ever pulled, turns out she actually pulled me exactly because of this dynamic. The down side is that was over 10 years ago, that’s how rare the good ones can be. Luckily I ran into my current girlfriend and we had a similar mutual attraction being each others “type”, so game wasn’t as much of a factor compared to women who could be more in the middle of the bell curve.
The silver lining in all of this is that you can improve your SMV by changing things about yourself and improve the thresholds of the edges of the bell curve. In other words you can include more women who will find you naturally attractive and decrease the number of women who will never be interested.
Fitness, fashion, status, and game. That’s what it’s all about. Improve those things you’ll find more women who are attracted to you, the more women you are interested in will start becoming available to you, and you’ll find yourself barking up the wrong tree far less often.
There are some of us (the lucky 10%) who will have a much higher percentage of women who will naturally be attracted to them, whereas some men will experience the opposite and have a higher percentage of women that will never be attracted to them. Life isn’t fair. All you can really do is improve yourself so that you have more women naturally attracted and to shift the indifferent ones towards your team.
Both are solid goals, but many men spend way too much time and effort fighting the uphill battle of trying to get the ones who are indifferent. A much better strategy is to do what those naturals and stellar PUAs do and focus on the women that naturally attracted and screen for those women instead. This just makes the most sense in my opinion.