Losing Time

Losing Time

Aug 22, 2013

I’ve been taking the Red Pill for about three years now, and the most common lament I hear coming from fellow Red Pillers is this:

“I only wish I’d discovered this stuff sooner. Imagine where I would be now if I’d taken the Red Pill x years ago.”

If there’s one sentiment that most (if not all) Red Pillers can sympathize with, it’s this one.

Wasted time feels like the worst kind of loss. Time is the most precious resource. It is the one and only thing which, once spent, cannot be replenished. Men are creatures of drive, purpose, and ambition. We pride ourselves on our accomplishments – waste is the bane of our lives, and we seek to stamp it out wherever we can find it.

So it’s easy – beguiling even – to look with regret and sorrow at the Blue Pill years of your life, spent toiling in ignorance, driven by imperatives and agendas that were not entirely your own. And for what? Nothing?

I disagree. And here’s why:

Because you can’t know how things might have turned out otherwise.

Let’s face it: the Red Pill is a bitter pill. It makes no apologizes about the brutish, opportunistic nature of sexual and social politics. For anyone coming from years of indoctrination in pleasant lies, it can seem unreal and pessimistic. It takes PAIN to make the Red Pill seem real.

If there’s one thing I know for certain, it’s that pain is a necessary component of the learning process. A mistake is not truly a mistake, and a lesson not truly learned, unless your error has harmed you in some significant way to make the lesson stick.

Imagine if you had found the Red Pill too early. Imagine if you had read about Red Pill ideas before the prolonged, soul-flaying tedium or the singular, heart-shattering betrayal that has now led you to it? Would you you still have accepted it?

My guess is, probably not. You might have formed a negative preconception about the Red Pill in that moment. You could have dismissed it as “extremist, misogynist nonsense”, and inoculated yourself against its lessons later when you finally sustained the injury to your happiness.

Everything that has happened to you until this point in your life HAD TO HAPPEN in order for you to reach the conclusions you have reached today.

In my perspective, the suffering you have endured until the moment you took the Red Pill was your equity. Your entry free. It’s what made the lesson stick.

Having taken the Red Pill, you are part of a very small minority who have awakened to the condition of their lives. There are countless millions of men who still labour in ignorance, as you once did. And there are millions more who went to their graves not knowing how much different, how much better life could have been. All things considered, you’ve got it pretty good.

That’s why I say celebrate your defeats as well as your victories. Because whether you’re a recent convert to the Red Pill or a long-time reader with years of regret still clinging to you, everything that has happened has shaped you into the man you are.

And everything you do from this point on will shape you into the man you become.

Mourn productively.

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HumanSockPuppet is a Red Pill coach, amateur athlete, and engineer-in-training based in Los Angeles, California.

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  1. telnet /

    > Everything that has happened to you until this point in your life HAD TO HAPPEN in order for you to reach the conclusions you have reached today.

    C’mon. That’s like a chick stepping off the cock carousel telling others, but mostly herself, that all those experiences made her who she is and it couldn’t have happened any different. We know it’s a feel-good rationalization.

    Same with the red pill. Knowing sooner is strictly better. Think of all those flings you could have had in high school, on vacations, trips… All those chicks who were clearly into you — there for the taking! — whom you passed up because you didn’t pick up on the, now obvious, signals.

    I have flashbacks just writing about it.

    It’s like that with everything. “When is the best time to start? Five years ago. Failing that, today.”

    No need to dwell on the past failures but let’s acknowledge them for what they are.

    • sammy1974 /

      @Telnet – I respectfully disagree with your assessment. I am not inclined to disagree with your main point. More specifically, I agree that sooner is better with Red Pill knowledge. However, I believe that the thesis of the post was to accept the past for what it was and move on without wasting time regretting. We can all surrender any hope of a better past as it is written in stone. I am far enough along in life (39) that it is really easy to slip into “I wish I would have known then….” mentality. I find it far more productive to ask myself what my future self would want the present me to know.

  2. Mandeponium /

    The Star Trek TNG episode “Tapestry” illustrates this point beautifully.

    The mistakes Captain Picard made, he deeply regretted. But when he was given the chance to go back in time and change them, he found those same mistakes were what made him into the courageous Starfleet captain he became.

    The mistakes you’ve made are a part of you now. You shouldn’t want to take back the person you are. The corollary to that is: you must strive to become the person you want or you will regret who you are, mistakes and all.

    Go watch it. It’s on Netflix.

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