Being alpha doesn’t necessarily mean being popular

Being alpha doesn’t necessarily mean being popular

Nov 4, 2013

Can you be an alpha without leading ¬†or otherwise being the center of a social group? The answer is a definitive yes. A lot of people on /r/theredpill, especially the newer (and younger sounding) users tend to think that if they’re not constantly the center of attention then they’re not alpha. This is nothing but narcissism manifesting itself as weakness. It’s such a black and white view and it buys into the overarching primitively sung narrative by the would-be detractors of red philosophy that the red pill is about turning chimpanzees into silverback gorillas who can beat their chests the loudest and transform into vagina slaying men of the jungle as if we’re all still the hairy neanderthal subjects of an ancient wilderness; just like the silver tinge to the silverback gorillas coat, there are many shades of grey, fuck it, probably as many as 50 shades of grey when it comes to “being alpha.” Sometimes even when someone’s got more social power within a group than you they don’t necessarily flaunt it by making a grandiose show or otherwise hitting you over the head with the fact, groups like this are enjoyable despite your lack of absolute hegemony over them. You may not be the top dog in this specific circle but you’re not having someone try to shit on your ego with their higher status by conducting elaborate over the top egotistical drawn out displays which scream “look at me, I’m so high value” in a needy attempt to defend the perception that they’re the boss, EG: the muscly guy who just won’t stop flexing his bicep, kissing it and then trying to make eye contact… not because he’s gay and he’s into you, but simply just because he is a cunt. So what happens when someone is a dick and has the edge in a peer group over you, as to say in the pecking order they’re higher up than you are? My advice is very simple – quit that social circle. Hanging around someone who is a dick (not for banter and to elevate the group but to feed their ego with your misery via the process of emotional vampirism)...