The Bell Curve

The Bell Curve

Aug 6, 2013

Life operates on a bell curve in a variety of ways from skill to IQ to height and weight. In the sexual marketplace on one end there are women who are attracted right off the bat and on the other end there are women that no matter what you say or do you’ll never be seen as attractive and won’t have a shot with them. The bulk of women fall somewhere between these two ends of the spectrum. Naturals and a lot of PUAs do what I would describe as not having good game, but are good at screening women for those who are warm to their approach, allowing them to find women who are their type so they get laid quicker and more often. When you zoom out and start looking at the bigger picture, that bulk of women that fall somewhere in the middle of that bell curve, good game IMO is what lets you get them. Adam Lyons once said something similar to all of this in that everyone is only attractive up to a certain point, and to “punch above your weight” you’ll need to have solid game. Typically game will only let you get women about 1 point of SMV higher than yourself. Really tight game may get you a 2 point bump. Using the number system, if you’re a 7 then you’ll usually pull 7s and below. You’ll need good game to get 8s and incredible game to get 9s. So where does the bell curve fit in? A) Game lets you get women who you’re NOT naturally attractive for B) There are woman out there who will be naturally attracted to you for whatever reason, so with them you don’t even have to run game really, you just have to not fuck it up That guy who is a 7 may be an 8 or 9s perfect guy for some reason and may not need much game to get them. It happens once in a while, as in the Marisa Tomei/George Constanza sense. However, that’s an extremely rare occurrence from what I’ve experienced personally, which is why screening is so important, mainly so you’re not fighting an...

How Pre-Selection Affects Your Online Dating Profile

How Pre-Selection Affects Your Online Dating Profile

Jul 31, 2013

Pre-selection. Pretty much every tenet of game revolves around this concept. The idea is simple: Women want a man of value. The best indicator of a man with value is finding a man that other women are attracted to. It’s a meta signal, because men start exhibiting traits that demonstrate preselection instead of traits that show actual value in a mate. Strength, money, access to resources are actually beneficial to a potential mate. Instead, men find they can exhibit these meta-traits to attract women, because possessing these meta traits demonstrate access to women, who theoretically found him to display other traits of value (such as strength or access to resources). Of course, that means if you can learn to exploit preselection, you can more likely attract mates without necessarily possessing the actual traits that give a man value, only the ones that signal that others think you do! Being seen in public with a woman or multiple women is the standard of pre-selection social proof. Almost all the signals that game attempts to exploit are all attempts at hacking pre-selection, by giving the appearance of pre-selection when there is none actually happening: Abundance Mentality – playing it fast and loose with women because you don’t need any single one of them since you’ve always got more Displaying confidence – showing that this isn’t your first rodeo signals that you’ve been with other women Both of these fake pre-selection by displaying traits that would otherwise be present in people who have been pre-selected by other women. These hacks have been useful in creating what’s known as the gaming community or pickup community. But there’s a major game changer on the scene: Online dating. The Problem of Online Dating and Pre-Selection The problem with online dating is that it signals something very anti-pre-selection: You do not have a mate or options, so you are going online to find one. Even if it’s not true, there is an undertone that being online means you are unable to attract mates elsewhere. Naturally, the tendency of game-savvy men is to still attempt to game on their profiles. But it’s difficult if you don’t recognize the disadvantages of pre-selection in this context....

Sexual Strategy is Amoral

Sexual Strategy is Amoral

Jul 9, 2013

Sexual strategy is amoral. You might stick to your values, but those who have sex .. have sex. It’s best illustrated through our ancestors. The idea was that whether or not we like the methods used- whoever procreated made children, and those who didn’t.. didn’t. Your understanding of how morality works is a bit flawed here. You see, there is no universal morality. There is nothing in the universe applying any law other than those of physics. The rest is abstraction. Morality is not black and white. Let’s look at stealing for instance. If I steal a loaf of bread, we would normally consider that wrong. But what if I were a starving child on the street and I have no other way of surviving? If I stole that bread and ate it to survive the night, was this right? Is it a grey area? People make value judgements every day to determine what the best survival strategy is, (and to maximize happiness if basic needs are met). Most people realized very early on that one good survival strategy was to not be murdered. Sounds pretty basic. So a social contract was developed. I won’t murder you if you don’t murder me! But if somebody invades our group, we can kill them! So we can see that even killing is not right or wrong in a black and white sense. Murder, stealing, rape, these were all concepts that most people entering into the social contract said, I don’t want these things, my best strategy is to cooperate, therefore I should not do them. And the basic framework of morality was built. Killing Nazis? Moral. Killing your neighbor? Immoral. A simple code to pass on the social contract that enables society and really helped us as a species! I think you and I agree when I say that we’ve both signed on to this concept. I don’t want to be murdered, and I willingly take part in a social contract of not murdering. Most people have this concept built in evolutionarily- it’s called empathy! Empathy helped groups to survive. Empathy follows this model, as most felt righteous or indifferent towards the killing of enemies and food. So, yes, there...